Skill

Frame a low-stakes way to name the tension

Drafts a direct but low-stakes way to surface a detected friction or tension that invites honest response rather than defensiveness.

In / outDetected friction signal + relationship context → wording, moment, and framing that names the tension without escalating

You might say…

I've spotted the drift — now I need to name it in a way that opens it up, not shuts it down.

What it does

Given a detected friction signal, drafts a direct but low-stakes way to surface the concern that invites honest response rather than defensiveness — the wording, the moment, and the framing that names the tension early without escalating it. Used to convert a noticed drift into a proactive conversation before it becomes a rupture.

Trigger: Use when a friction signal has been detected and needs to be raised proactively before it becomes a rupture.

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